The Power in the way we Think

I was invited to watch a youtube video today and was inspired to share it, along with my thoughts. It is called “The Art of Asking” and describes one artist’s experiences in the music industry. I found it profound and I invite you to watch it with me.

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMj_P_6H69g

What is the Art of Asking? Asking for help. Making yourself vulnerable, taking a risk and opening yourself up to possible rejection.

I have spent the vast majority of my life hiding away from people, being shy, being fearful of judgement and rejection. What if people find me lacking? I cannot admit that I need help because it would mean that I am not perfect. It would mean that I am inadequate. That I am weak and needy. That I am unworthy.

Those are all things that have been through my head numerous times over many, many years. As I have progressed through my life I have had experiences that have shown me that it really IS ok to ask for support. And every time I do it, I get new evidence that says *I* am ok. Right here, right now, I *AM* ok. Even when I am unable to do it on my own. Especially when I am unable to do it on my own.

I used to think that by keeping things to myself that I was helping other people because they wouldn’t need to be *burdened* by my stuff. That they had enough to worry about in their own lives, and they needed my support. I have discovered though, that by allowing myself to ASK, I am giving *THEM* a gift. Much like the connection Amanda Palmer made with the lonely people she gave the flower to during the time she worked as the 8 ft. bride. She gave those people the gift of knowing someone *SAW* them. That someone knew they were alive. She connected with them in a way that few people have likely done before.

By asking for support when you need it, you give the other person the gift of connection. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable and let someone else into your life, you bless that person with a connection that would otherwise have not been there. You open up opportunities to experience richness in your relationships that is unrivaled by anything else. You get to experience love in one of its purest forms.

The question is, is that opportunity enough of a reward to take the risk of surfing the crowd?

What do you think? What have your experiences been?

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